One of the things that I need to do as part of my transformation is step outside of my comfort zone and do phone calls.
Now, I love talking on the phone but the idea of doing discovery calls always intimidated me. I felt that I would get rejected or be made to feel like I wasn't competent to help anyone.
Ironically, I do know what I'm talking about. And I also know that coaching is not like therapy. I'm not going to fix anyone. I'm going to help them fix themselves. And, I also know that not everyone I speak to is going to be a perfect fit for me, nor me for them. And I'm okay with that.
So what was the block? Just my own mindset. So I'm walking the walk not just talking the talk. I shifted my mindset and am open to conducting discovery calls for free.
There's no pitch on these calls. Its all about me talking with my ideal market and getting their insight, learning what they need and helping them get started on their own transformation journey.
There isn't even a product to offer at this point. Just some conversation and coaching.
I can't wait to speak with you.
You can also comment on the blog, below and let me know you're interested and what is your biggest struggle and also what is your biggest goal.
Today, I went back to working Mondays after a month of being off. As much as I enjoyed the extra day off, it changed my paycheck in a couple of ways.
But, because of the new schedule, I was able to pick up my youngest son from school today. He was surprised to see me and it was great having a few minutes one on one with him.
The weather was amazing so I was able to take the kids to the park and we had a really nice time.
There's a lot of other drama going on in my life right now, but I made sure I appreciated the beauty of the day, the benefit of a good job and the quality time I was able to spend with my kids. And I just realized I didn't get to do my video for today so I will focus on catching up for tomorrow.
Whatever is going on...there's no reason you can't take a few minutes to be grateful. My transformation journey is only on day 3, but I know I'm on the right track.
I believe in myself.
I believe in you.
I'm rooting for you,
hope you're rooting for me too.
It might be physical pain, like the soreness of walking uphill, as I did today after going for a nice walk in the park. Or, like withdrawal from sugar and caffeine.
Sometimes the pain is in your soul, like the changes I have to make in my living situation. Or the stress of not having the money I need to do the basics.
But the rewards will be greater than the pain. The end result is the focus I need to keep so that I can get through the days ahead.
It's not going to be easy but it will be worth it.
That's what I hold on to. That's what will keep me going.
As you go through your own transformation, keep your eye on the prize my friend. It's the only way to keep it together.
I believe in myself.
I believe in you.
I'm rooting for you,
hope you're rooting for me too.
Your mind must be convinced that it needs to look for the end results. That's why I set a 90 day challenge for myself. Even though it's a lifestyle change, having goals gives me a forward focus and helps me gauge my progress.
Once the mind is convinced of something-anything-it seeks evidence to prove itself right and craves the supporting actions. If I told myself that I will never lose weight, get a better job, make more money...the subconscious will focus on these things and seek evidence to make it true.
That's why daily affirmations, intentions, visualizations and goals are so very important. It will constantly refocus you to look at where you want to go despite where you might be.
Now, sometimes you're going to have unmet goals. But that's where gratitude exercises and forgiveness comes in to play. We all have those off days. We all have challenges and obstacles. ALL OF US! It's important to focus on what is right and going well. Forgive yourself for what didn't go as planned or when you have a mental or physical breakdown. Then, let it go. It serves no useful purpose to hold on to the dead weight.
Another vital component in a transformatio journey is SUPPORT. A support system will celebrate your wins with you, give you a pat on the back when you struggle and extend a hand when you've fallen. True support provides constructive criticism...helpful advice and suggestions. As well as a shoulder to lean on when you're weary.
Nobody is perfect. We all have our faults, struggles, challenges and even addictions. Knowing you're not alone is a tremendous relief.
Last night I did an exercise for my mind. I created a transformation short list.
From overweight to 125#
From smoker to non-smoker
From sloth to exercising 3-5 x a week
From broke to 6 figure income earner
From in debt to debt-free
From homeless to home owner
From p/t mom to f/t mom
From nobody to mindset & wellness maven
From trapped to total freedom
From stressed to blessed
From struggling to happy
I let it flow and that was the list I created. I have a long way to go but I feel confident. More confident than I have in a long time. I feel totally aligned for a change, not just partially aligned in this way or that.
My name is Joy Marino. Welcome to my blog. I am a mom of 6, a Veterinary Technician, an Author and a Coach.
Today I started on a journey. For the sake of goal-setting, I will say it's a 90 day challenge. But, in reality, it is the first chapter on a life-long journey. A journey that will take me to highs and lows. A journey that will have twists and turns, periods of euphoria and devastation. After all, isn't that what life is? A journey?
I created an introduction/Day 1 video to share a bit about this journey. Let me tell you, I went WAY out of my comfort zone to do this video. I have become very self-conscious over the past few years. But, I know that in order to grow, there are pains to push through.
My transformation is not the typical "weight loss" journey. It's about transforming my mental health as well as my physical health. I started out this year with the intentions of becoming a Life Coach. And, I began to target Mompreneurs. I've spent many hours working on content, learning new techniques and implementing a great deal of concepts to help me get my message out to the world.
AND...it's all awesome, real-deal shit. BUT...it's not all of who I am. I still felt something was missing. Something that I needed to deal with before I could help others. And, last night, while relaxing in the tub, I began to think. See, water is my "thing"...meaning when I'm in contact with water, or even just sitting watching the ocean, my thoughts become productive, clear and progressive. Ideas flow. Clarity happens. Motivation and inspiration strike.
I truly want to work as a Mindset coach. But, there was more. And, I targeted Mompreneurs because that's who I am. I am a mom and an entrepreneur. There are some crazy sets of challenges when you need to be 100% for your kids and 100% for your business. And for all entrepreneurs, with or without kids there's also: if you work outside the home, that's another 100%. And, if you have a partner or spouse...and friends...all 100% too.
Anyway, I digress. I do that often so you may want to just get used to it. I've been referred to as a young Edith Bunker at times. If you don't know who that is...you're probably NOT in my age group. LOL.
So, my thought process went to this, and I'm summing it up here as best as I can (and in my video above, too):
I want to inspire and empower women who are "40-ish" to get mentally and physically fit.
My journey is going to be as real as it gets. I'm no fitness guru. I'm no "greens only" kinda gal. I am not a nutritionist or a personal trainer. I'm not allergic to gluten or a vegetarian. I'm just a regular woman who needs to get her act together.
However, wherever my journey takes me is NOT where you are supposed to go. This isn't about helping you lose 35 pounds like I plan to, or stop smoking or eating clean. This is about me sharing the real shit I go through to get where I want to be before I'm too damn old to get anywhere at all. Or, before some illness forces me to dramatically change my lifestyle.
In turn, it will undoubtedly inspire women to shoot after their OWN transformation journey. I don't know if I can inspire 10 women or 10,000 women. I don't know if I can make a living doing it, either. But, once I realized that I wasn't doing what I needed for myself, that's when my focus shifted. I'm no good to anybody if I drop dead from a stroke or get so depressed that I don't want to leave the house anymore.
How the hell can I help anyone like that?
So, my Day 1 video is up. And...good, bad or ugly, I will be doing a daily video under 10 minutes to share what's going on, what my thoughts are and if I even got a second of exercise in that day.
Speaking of which, it is GORGEOUS here in Jersey! So, after work today, I took the kids to the park and we had a ton of fun playing kickball. I ran around with my kids...sometimes, really running my ass off...for almost an hour. It felt great, but I think I'm a bit sore. I will be tomorrow, that's for sure.
I also switched my sweetener to sucralose in my coffee this afternoon and chugged a bottle of water.
I used the only spare $1.27 I had to buy that since I forgot to fill a water bottle before I left work.
Oh yeah, I mentioned in the video...part of what I'm going to share is how when money is tight, I cope. I drink tap water...OMG!! And, I eat ramen noodles...yes, I said it. I've had two cigs, just while I wrote this long-ass blog post AND I'm going to take a short nap. It's been a long week, but it's Saturday night! I'm not very healthy right now, but, that is the REALITY of life for some of us. You don't always have the time or resources to do it "right" so...
DO THE BEST YOU CAN, WITH WHAT YOU HAVE, WHERE YOU ARE.
A motto I say daily. The part that makes the difference..."the BEST I CAN" If you can eat better...DO it. If you can skip that donut...DO IT. If you can walk on your lunch break for 10 minutes....DO IT.
At the end of the day, you need to have peace in your mind, heart and soul that you did the best you could. And, if you slipped off your plans, forgive yourself and get back on plan tomorrow.
